20 years of marriage is a lot to celebrate. The two of you have been through two decades of ups and downs as a couple, and now you get to commemorate that special day with one (or more) well-deserved gifts.
Traditionally, china is the official 20th-year present, and it's meant to symbolize the beautiful life you’ve built together. The modern take on gifting for this milestone is platinum, which is strong (just like your union). However, you don't have to play by the rules if you think your partner would prefer something else. You can also choose to forgo tradition and gift something super personalized or something that represents your shared hobbies and history together. What matters most when searching for a gift is the thought you put into it. Of course, it's also important to consider an item's durability and functionality.
Lee Ramsay, the owner of Lee Ramsay Events, suggests finding something personal to celebrate your two shared decades, such as a vow renewal or romantic getaway. "It can bring you back to those special touchstone moments you’ve shared over the past 20 years," she adds. You can also opt for a personalized keepsake or a timeless watch, which she says “can symbolize the timeless nature of your relationship.”
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To help you find the perfect 20th-anniversary gift for your spouse, we researched various options with these features in mind. For a sweet and sentimental keepsake, we love the Memories1314 Custom Photo/Text Decorative Plate. Looking for a unique and personalized present? The Alexander Doll Wedding Waltz Personalized Art and Uncommon Goods New York Times Custom Anniversary Book are our favorite picks.
Read on for the best 20th-anniversary gifts.
Le Labo Rose 31 Eau de Parfum
Perfume can feel like a super personal choice, but this earthy rose scent is almost universally loved for its nuance and complexity. It features notes of cumin, cedar, and labdanum, bringing a mix of masculine scents into an otherwise floral fragrance. It's a bit of a splurge, but the scent comes in three different sizes, so there’s a bottle for every budget.
Juli Diamond Cleaning Essentials Kit
Make her baubles sparkle and shine. This Diamond Cleaning Kit comes with an ice pick that is perfect for cleaning hard-to-reach areas, while the pave cradle (short, densely-paced bristles) is ideal for delicate baby diamonds. Think of this as a toothbrush for her diamonds.
Jonathan Adler Sorrento Backgammon Set
If you and your partner are all about hosting game nights, check out this 1960s Italian-style Backgammon set. The blue geometric shapes elevate this game to a whole new, chic level, and when it's not in use it doubles as a stunning cocktail table accent. You can also buy a deck of cards in the same Sorrento line to make a matching set.
Blissy Mulberry Silk Pillowcase
A silk pillowcase guarantees a good night’s beauty sleep. Because silk doesn’t absorb moisture as much as other fabrics, it's said to aid your skin in retaining moisture and helps keeps your hair frizz-free. We love this one because it's machine washable, as long as it’s on tumble dry. It comes in several different colors, but we suggest opting for emerald to match the 20th anniversary stone.
JBW Mink Platinum Diamond Bracelet Watch, 28mm
If you’re looking to splurge for this milestone anniversary, this glitzy 18-karat gold sparkles with 505 diamonds, 12 sapphires, and a mother-of-pearl subdial. It sounds over-the-top, but its slender silhouette is anything but—it feels utterly sophisticated, yet modern.
Montblanc Platinum-Coated Classique Ballpoint Pen
This pen means business, and so does he. If your partner is an avid to-do lister or just loves journaling, gift him something that glides on paper like no other. This ballpoint pen features platinum-coated rings with embossed Montblanc lettering—its an effortlessly chic addition to his desk or briefcase. To take it up a notch, you can add engraving of names or initials by the right side of or on the platinum-coated clip.
Memories1314 Custom Photo/Text Decorative Plate
China is a traditional gift for this anniversary, but give it an unexpected twist with this custom plate. Choose a favorite photo from your wedding day and have it printed on porcelain—your spouse will be blown away. This. keepsake features a dye-sublimation technology and a UV-durable and scratch-resistant finish for a vivid and long-lasting result. Even better, it comes with a display stand, so you can showcase it immediately after your spouse has opened it.
LAURA LOMBARDI Platinum-Plated Hoop Earrings
If you're looking for something a little more classic she can wear every day, these platinum hoop earrings are the perfect little gift. Crafted with a simple looped silver design, they're minimal yet versatile—she'll be able to style with so many different looks. Also nice: the circular links can be detached and worn separately.
Alexander Doll Wedding Waltz Personalized Art
Commemorate your first dance together with this clever vintage-inspired piece. In in addition to hair and skin color, each print can be customized with names, dates, and locations—it will fit the two of you like a well-tailored tux. You can also choose between two different frame sizes, and it's printed on archival paper with archival ink for a long-lasting, durable finish.
New York Times Custom Anniversary Book
This customized book is a creative way to remember the current events of the past two decades—it's personalized to feature every New York Times front page from the day of your nuptials up to the day of your 20th anniversary. It's bound together in a high-quality hardcover that's embossed with your names and wedding date. If your spouse is a history buff, this will surely please them.
LAURA LOMBARDI Platinum and Gold-Plated Recycled Necklace
This platinum and gold-plated necklace is both edgy and elegant. It's also an excellent layering piece and gives an unconventionally chic touch to any outfit. If your sweetheart loves to mix metals with her jewelry pieces, this bold design is the way to go.
Vista Allegre Emerald 5-Piece Place Setting
Emerald is considered to be the 20th-anniversary gemstone—pair it with the traditional gift of china to add an extra touch. This chic set contains five pieces, including a teacup and saucer, a dinner plate, a salad plate, and a bread-and-butter plate. It's dishwasher-safe, microwave-safe, and chip-resistant, so it's both durable and easy-to-clean. Whether you haven't updated your dinnerware in 20 years or your spouse just loves to host parties with glamorous tablescapes, this set is sure to please.
GlassPaperScizzors Blush Wedding Invitation Custom Personalized Decoupage Tray
Pull your wedding invitation out from the closet and turn it into something your spouse can look at every day with this customized tray. The colors of this custom plate can be matched exactly to the ones in your invite, and you can purchase it with a hanger so you can display it on the wall instead of a table or shelf. Each tray measures 10x10 inches, and it's crafted from durable glass. Take the personalization even further and have the seller add a handwritten note from you on the back.
Stubhub Gift Card
Whether your partner never misses a playoff game or is always queuing for hard-to-get concert tickets, this gift card has them covered. With this Stubhub gift card, they can purchase tickets and choose their own seats for sporting games, concerts, and other shows that pique their interests. Perhaps they can even find an event you can enjoy together—hello, date night!
Sevylor Fiji 2-Person Kayak
If you think of yourselves as outdoorsy people or want to experiment with water sports, then this blow up kayak is a must-have. Since it’s inflatable, you can store it pretty much anywhere (we're talking to you, apartment dwellers). It's constructed of 22-gauge PVC with an Airtight System, meaning it's durable enough to withstand any water season without tearing or leaking. A paddle and carrying bag are included, and it's equipped with spray covers to block splashes and keep you dry as you brave the waters.
Danby 36-Bottle Wine Cooler
For the wine-loving couple, gift this chic and reliable wine cooler. It can hold up to 36 bottles of your favorite wines, and it will keep them evenly chilled between 42.8 and 57.2 degrees Fahrenheit. The door is trimmed in platinum—keeping in theme with the modern 20th-anniversary gift—and it has a shatter-resistant, tempered-glass pane to view your collection. The door's hinges are also reversible, so you can set the direction of the door's opening swing to fit into your space. The inside is equipped with bright LED lights, five removable wire shelves, and a staggered shelf. Now you'll be able to break open your favorite wines whenever you want.
Uncommon Goods Personalized Whiskey Barrel
The cocktail-loving couple will get a kick out of this miniature engraved oak barrel. Because of its small stature, it ages spirits at an accelerated rate, so they'll reach peak drinking status faster. It's available in two sizes (two or five liters), and you can choose to purchase it with a rum and whiskey kit, a Tennessee whiskey kit, or simply on its own.
YETI Tundra Cooler
If they love tailgating or camping, there is no better companion (other than you, of course) than this virtually indestructible cooler. Available in several different colors, it features a high-tech, durable construction that's designed to be bear proof (an important factor for campers). Meanwhile, it has three inches of the brand's PermaFrost insulation and a Coldlock gasket to keep heat out and cool food and drinks for hours. With plenty of handles, non-slip feet, and tie-down slots, you can carry and set this cooler up anywhere and trust that it will stay in place.
Mark & Graham Hand Hooked Wedding Pillows
This sweet pillow is just as cozy and comfortable as the home you've made together. Each one is handmade to order from New Zealand wool and incorporates two names in a cute heart shape. You can choose between two different sizes (14x14 inches and 18x18 inches), each one filled with a plush polyfill insert.
Winc Gift Card
If you and your significant other love wine and want to learn a little more about it, this monthly wine membership will kickstart your ascent into oenophiles. Each time you receive a box and rate the bottles, Winc will learn more about your love and ship more of your favorite vino. You have the option of gifting the subscription in one-, two-, or three-month intervals, or you can customize the gift card with another amount of your choosing. Even better, you can add on a personalized note for an extra special touch.
Linoto Linen Sheet Set
If it's been a while since you've bought new bedding and you're looking to splurge on a luxe upgrade, these linen sheets are for you. Woven from the highest quality, eco-friendly fibers, this bedding comes in a range of colors and sizes and will definitely stand the test of time. Each set includes one linen flat sheet, one linen fitted sheet, two European-style flat sheets, two pillowcases, and two shams, and they come pre-washed, so you can instantly put them on your bed.
Amazon Basics 16-Piece Dinnerware Set
If you’re still eating off of the plates you received as a wedding gift 20 years ago, it’s high time to upgrade your dinnerware. This 16-piece white bone china set is a timeless design that promises to go with everything else you add to your tablescape. It comes with four dinner plates, salad plates, bowls, and mugs.
Bespoke Effects Linen Fabric Print
It’s crazy how fast time flies, isn’t it? This charming framed art hightlights just how much time has passed—from months to days to seconds—over the past 20 years of your marriage. No matter where you hang it in your house, you’ll both remember this significant milestone every time you walk by it.
Wedgwood Bone China Tea Cup
For the partner who loves their afternoon tea, gift them a meaningful tea cup that will stand out from the rest of their collection. Made of bone china and finished with 22-karat gold, this tea cup boasts a pink, green, and white color palette of whimsically romantic floral and bird illustrations.
Mejuri Baguette Gemstone Station Necklace
Emerald is the gemstone of the 20th wedding anniversary, known for its long-lasting sparkle thanks to its strength and invincibility—a symbol of 20 years together and all the years to come. The green stones are set in five dainty pendants along a delicate 14-karat yellow gold necklace. The chain adjusts in length from 16 inches to 18 inches, depending on what you're wearing.
Shutterfly 12x12 Custom Photo Book
Shutterfly has nearly 100 photo book templates—pick one to put together a thoughtful collection of your favorite snapshots over the past 20 years. Apart from including your own photos, you can customize it to a T, choosing whether you want a soft cover or premium leather cover, deluxe or standard pages, and a larger or smaller format.
martaARTwork Platinum Vinyl Record Frame
Your love deserves a platinum record after all the years you’ve spent together. This vinyl record comes framed as a plaque, which you can customize with your names, wedding date, favorite song, sweet message, and two photos together.
James Allen Platinum Emerald Cut Diamond Stud Earrings
These babies check off two of the themes associated with the 20th wedding anniversary. They’re platinum, and, while they’re diamonds instead of emeralds, they are emerald cut (so that kind of counts, right?). Regardless, your wife won’t turn down these dazzlers.
Goodee Bergs Potter Copenhagen Pot
If your significant other considers themselves a plant mom or plant dad, add this pretty emerald-glazed pot to their collection. Hand-crafted in Italy, it features a drainage hole and is frost resistant; it’s just as ideal for the outdoors as it is indoors. Better yet, plant something inside before gifting it to really bring it to life.
PATRON Gran Patron Platinum Silver Tequila
Triple-distilled, this tequila smells like fresh green agave and tastes like sweet limes and lemongrass, with touches of pepper. This is one that goes down smoothly. The crystal bottle can be engraved with your S.O.’s name or a “Happy 20th Anniversary,” so it will definitely earn a place of honor on the bar cart.
Brooklinen Super-Plush Robe
This is a gift you’ll want to get two of—one for your spouse and one for yourself. Crafted out of warm and cozy Turkish cotton, these robes make it hard to get dressed (you'll just want to stay wrapped up in them for a while longer). The best part: they even have pockets!
DinnerWear Jewelry Sterling Silver Cuff links with Blue Willow Broken China
Why not wear your dinner plates? These cufflinks are fashioned from vintage blue willow china, hand-carved with a sterling silver setting. We don’t think we’ve ever seen such resourceful and creative design! They’ll be sure to add a classy touch to any button down shirt.
Sabai The Essential Loveseat
Face it—you’ve probably had some of your furniture for a bit too long at this point. If your couch has suffered some wear and tear over the years, replace it with this chic loveseat that's the perfect size to cuddle up on for movie night. It measures 62-inches long and is completely sustainable, with up-cycled and recycled fabrics and domestically-sourced maple wooden legs.
T-fal Platinum Endurance Nonstick 14Pc Cookware Set
The worst part about cooking is cleaning it all up. But that's easy to do if you’re whipping up a meal with this aluminum cookware set, which features a platinum non-stick coating that also happens to be scratch-resistant—meaning it can handle metal utensils. There’s also a heat indicator in the middle of the pots and pans that glows red to indicate that it’s time to start cooking. The set comes with a skillet, sauté pan, frying pan, saucepan, dutch oven, and several utensils.
Resin Wood Gift Ring Dish
If you’re looking to keep gifts low-key this year, a ring dish is always a safe bet. Crafted of a walnut, elm, and a maple wood blend, plus emerald green resin, this one has a handsome and earthy vibe that feels gender neutral. It’s also coated with a varnish to protect it from water and fingerprints, while giving it a glossy sheen.
Journelle Celine Low Back Slip
A silk slip always feels like sleeping in luxury. This emerald number is simple—with a hint of sexy—thanks to a low back and short hemline. Adjustable straps and a scoop neckline make it easy to alter the dress’s level of coverage.
Apple AirPods Max
Whether you’re working from home together or in the office, a pair of noise-canceling headphones is a lifesaver. Apple’s version also includes a transparency mode that you can switch to when having a conversation. Available in five different colors, they also feature memory foam ear cushions covered in a knit-mesh for comfortability.
LMTCreativeAtHome Custom Wedding Venue Portrait
Take a trip down memory lane with a custom print of your wedding venue. Add your names, the name of your venue, and your wedding date to personalize it even further. It's available in a variety of sizes, from 5 x 7 to 20 x 30, so it will work in a variety of spaces.
Soludos Ibiza Classic Leather Sneaker
Made of soft leather with an OrthoLite sole, these sneakers are just as comfortable as they are trendy. The platinum color brings a dash of subtle glam to any outfit, but is still neutral enough to go with just about anything. The laces are also made from recycled plastic bottles, so it’s environmentally-friendly, to boot.
Meadow Paper Co. Record Player Anniversary Card
Whether you’re keeping gifts low-key this year or doing an experiential experience instead, a cute little card with a heartfelt message is a safe bet. This one, made of recycled cover stock and packaged with a kraft envelope, is perfect for the music lover.
BYAM England Because You Are My World - Fine Bone China Scented Candle
This fine bone china candle is a sweet gift, both in the gesture and in the scent—it's a gift that keeps giving . With a blend of tonka bean, spiced musk, jasmine, and patchouli on top of a foundation of warm cedar wood, your home will be smelling good in no time.
Prouna White/Blue/Gold 12" Bone China Table Vase
No need to break out the china for special occasions—this bone china vase can sit on your dining room table as an endless reminder of your love all year long. With a hand-painted blue floral pattern and a 24-karat gold-plated rim, it’s a stunner of a centerpiece.
Lorenzo Import Chloe 57-Piece New Bone China Dinnerware Set, Service for 8
If possible, it's a good idea to have both everyday china (durable) and "fancy" china (for entertaining and special occasions). With an elaborate gilded design, this set falls into the category of the latter. It’s complete with everything you need for a dinner party—dinner plates, soup bowls, salad dishes, cups, saucers, dessert bowls, an oval platter, a serving bowl, sugar bowl, salt and pepper set, a teapot, and a creamer.
What to Look for in a 20th-Anniversary Gift
- Interests and Hobbies: When shopping for a gift, consider your partner's interests and hobbies, as well as the things you two like to do together. You'll also want to look for items that are high-quality and sure to last for years to come. If you're still unsure what direction to go in, a personalized, sentimental gift is a no-fail option. Think monogrammed keepsakes or a custom print.
- Usefulness: After two decades of marriage, it's safe to say you likely know your partner better than anyone. So get them something you know they'll love and use, or something that will make their lives easier on a day-to-day basis. This anniversary is also a great opportunity to gift them something that they've been coveting for a while.
- The Traditional and Modern Themes: If you want to stick to classic anniversary gifts, then look for gifts that follow either the traditional or modern gifting themes. The traditional 20th-anniversary gift is china, a beautiful representation of the life you've made together. The modern take on 20th-anniversary gifts is platinum, which is strong just like your marriage. This can help narrow down your gift options, but following these themes certainly isn't required.
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- Lee Ramsay: Ramsay is the owner of Lee Ramsay Events, a full-service event-planning firm in New York, New York.